Wednesday, March 26, 2014

Masturbation: Is It a Sin?

This question was raised by a reader of Brother Magazine regarding masturbation.  Other people were asked to address this issue, however, for reasons unbeknownst to me, they chose not to.  So when I was asked, I figured to myself, “why not?”  This topic has been known to be one of the taboo topics in the body of Christ, however, as many of you know, I have a reputation for being combative and confrontational, so before you have a heart attack, I ask you to remain calm and just continue to read as I argue to my stance on whether or not masturbation is a sin.   This subject has evoked great emotion in the church and my commentary could invoke enormous controversy because there are so many people within Christendom who partake in this subject physically as it has become a hobby to a great many people. 

Simply put, I am compelled to be truthful by saying that my stance is “Yes” masturbation is very much a sin.  I say this because masturbation, while physical, is more mental than it is physical.  For those who would disagree I simply would ask that the next time you attempt to participate in this act, think on the Holiness of God and being in His divine presence.  While this may sound funny, you will have to admit that you won’t get far in the act of masturbation.  You have to understand that in order to participate in this act, not only is it physical but your mind MUST go to a place where you visualize the act of sex.  Your mind is provoked into going to a realm where lust permeates and your psyche has you lusting for a particular something. 

If I am wrong, please correct me however, in Matthew, the fifth chapter, Jesus speaks to the Pharisees who were quite legalistic and carried out the Ten Commandments to a “tee!”  However, Jesus, during His Sermon on the Mount, was led to discuss and share the “game change” and how the people had to operate hereafter because up until now they lived their lives by the commandments and were quick to make sure they did not literally kill anyone.  Conversely, Jesus shared a new concept or a new paradigm or way of thinking which took things to another level which dealt not only with their actions but delved into their thought processes.  He dealt with the issue of murder and not only dealt with the literal meaning of taking a life but shared with them that if they were angry with their brother or sister, it was the same thing as being guilty of murder.  Likewise, for the adulterer, the Pharisees were quick to stand in judgment about their religious living because there were some who hadn’t crossed the line literally nonetheless Jesus leveled the playing field by sharing with them that the heart can be corrupted with lust quicker than the body can. 

Do you understand the basis for my argument in why masturbation is a sin?  Again, show me someone who can become aroused singing a hymn and keeping their mind on whatever is honest, pure, and of good report and if they can do that and still manipulate their body to have an orgasm then maybe I can take a different approach as to how to argue the text.  But until then, I must stay true to the conviction of my heart and aim to make sure my mind stays pure from lustful thoughts that could lead me down a path of no return.  My goal is to do and say those things which are pleasing to my Heavenly Father and the same should be your goal as well. So remember, it’s not about legalistically staying out of the bedroom but rather the thought processes of your mind that resonates   in the mind of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. 

I know this may seem harsh but I have to keep it real otherwise I wouldn’t be who I am.  The act of masturbation can only be completed by the lustful thoughts that cause stimulation that is needed in order to produce the intended orgasmic reaction!  It is the thought of sexual relations coupled with the manipulation of your body that leads to the purposed combustion.  Without the mind igniting the passion of thought then masturbation is null and void.   I will close by referring to the book of James, chapter 1 verses 14 & 15.  I will use the Message Bible just because it brings the entire point home better than the King James Version does.  (The Message Bible) “The temptation to give in to evil comes from us and only us. We have no one to blame but the leering, seducing flare-up of our own lust.  Lust gets pregnant, and has a baby: sin! Sin grows up to adulthood, and becomes a real killer.”  So basically, James is saying you need to check yo’self before you wreck yo’self!   

Written by Luther McKinstry for  Brotha Magazine for the  Oct/Nov 2010 Issue.   

Friday, March 21, 2014

More ......

I wanna give my best to you
I wanna do what you asked me to do
I wanna go wherever you say
just say the word and I'll obey
I wanna live a life that's real
I wanna serve you lord for real
for you deserve all this and more
so I give you more

Sometimes I can't find the words I want to say to God in prayer.  So I find a song that reveals the sentiments of my heart.  This song simply entitled "More" does just that this morning. 

Through this surrender journey I want to be MORE.  
More open
More loving
More giving
More understanding
More forgiving 
JUST MORE ..... 

Most importantly more of the man God wants me to be. 

What lyrics are speaking to you?

Monday, March 17, 2014

What did I learn .....

Part II 

So what did I learn? 
I learned one of the most difficult lessons of LIFE ...... I learned (still) how to be BE GRATEFUL ! 

You know the lyrics: God has not promised me sunshine.  That's not the way it's going to be. But a little a rain ..... A little rain? 

At that point of my and subsequent othesr I was, have, and will experience DOWN POURS. Yet every down pour had made me stronger and has equipped me for the next.  I can take more now than  I did at 20; better yet 35; not as quick to throw in the towel like I have been. Just imagine if I had, there would be no Brotha, no music, no anything just a family mourning my death.  

So here is the question of the week.  What do you want to learn during the Surrender Fast? 

Again, comment or email me at  I will respond.  God Bless You.  

Friday, March 14, 2014


I remember the day I tried to kill myself in at 19 or 20 (now 40).  I sat in the upstairs bathroom of my childhood home. I was lost, didn't like myself, no self-esteem, thought I was ugly and that no one would love me. Now I had loving parents and seven brothers/sisters yet I still felt so alone.  So I took a bottle of my dads pills and said good-bye to myself.  Took the pills, sat there and threw every last pill up. 

GOD IS AMAZING ! Because I'm Still Here ! 

I was born for this. Every mistake, failure, broken heart, almost dying twice  ~ YES I WAS BORN FOR THIS.  This is the life God gave me and even through my jack ups, hang ups, low points, high points I was was born for this.   Each one of those experiences made me who I am a this moment.  I am better singer, editor, publisher, BELIEVER because of them.  Don't knock down these experiences; just ask yourself one question ~ What did I learn?  

Part II on Monday ...... 

Wednesday, March 12, 2014

What do you want to Change?

You know my other side
I can no longer hide
Let You down so many times
Sin freshly crucifies

Thought that I had a plan
I had it all figured out
But the more that You tried
To be by my side
The more I push You out

Lord make me over
Lord make me over
Lord make me over

As a publisher I am always looking at words.  As a singer I am always looking for words to help express what I'm feeling and want to minister at the same time (hence me posting the lyrics above.)   During this cycle of the surrender fast I am asking God to make me over.  I want to mature or grow in Christ. SO I began to think this morning in prayer ~  Growth signifies change and during this cycle I want to grow or mature meaning I want and have to change.  When you want to stay the same spiritually you don't read, study (there's a difference) fast, pray, mediate etc. all of these bring change or growth. When you don't want "Grow"or Mature you stop doing those things the bring about growth , change, or maturity.  

So, What do you want to Change? and Where do you want to see Growth? 

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Tuesday, March 11, 2014

Good Afternoon, I am so excited about this cycle of the Surrender Fast.  I wanted to post something yesterday but everything was hectic and not going the way I planned for them to go.  Last night as I looked back over the day, I noticed that I didn't become frustrated about how things weren't going "My Way".  I also notice how full of joy and peace as the day began to unfold and became clear that Monday, March 10th  wasn't going to go "My Way" ~ This is MAJOR for me!    I get easily annoyed and frustrated when things don't go "My Way" to the point where it takes me hours to get back to a place of calm.  Lately, I have been staying in that place of calm and began just letting the Lord handle it.  Trust me it's a better place to be and  realizing at 40 years old I can't fix it no matter how hard I try and that letting go (of relationships, bitterness, etc) it better for me mentally, physically, and spiritually. 

Lastly, "My Way" is not always "God's Way" even if you have planned it to the last detail.  Instead ask yourself ~ What does God say? 

Song of the Day: For My Good by Daniel Johnson

Daniel Johnson - For My Good (+playlist)